思い出すことがあったので、ヘンリ・ナウエンの「Hear and Now」からの一節をメモ。これは日本語訳もあめんどうさんから出ているので、あとで日本語も加えておきます。(追記:この冬、邦訳を日本で買ってきたのに、絶対シカゴまで持って帰ってきているはずなのに、なぜか見当たらなくて… すみません、見つけたら日本語訳も加えます。)






Being a parent is like being a good host to a stranger! While we may think that our children are like us, we are continually suprised at how different they are. We can be gladdened by their intelligence, their artisitic gifts, or their athletic prowess, or saddened by their slowness in learning, their lack of coordination, or their "odd" interests. In many ways we don't know our children. We didn't create our own children, nor do we own them. This is good news. We don't need to blame ourselves for all their problems, nor should we claim for ourselves their successes. Children are gifts from God. They are given to us so that we can offer them a safe, loving place to grow to inner and outer freedom. They are like strangers who ask for hospitality, become good friends, and then leave again to continue their journey. They bring immense joy and immense sorrow precisely because they are gifts. And a good gift, as a proverb says, is "twice given." The gift we receive, we have to give again. When our child leaves us to study, to look for work, to marry, to join a community, or simply to become independent, sorrow and joy touch each other. Because it is then that we feel deeply that "our" child isn't really "ours" but given to us to become a true gift for others. It is so hard to give our children their freedom-especially in this violent and exploitative world. We so much want to protect them from all possible dangers. But we cannot. They do not belong to us. They belong to God, and one of the greatest acts of trust in God is letting our children make their own choices and find their own way. ("Hear and Now" Henri Nouwen)



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